Yes, the blog is inspired by the movie, but its crazy how we put ourselves in a positions to be successful because to us, that is what will make us happy. But to the college students reading this, have you ever sat and thought if you could be happy in the long run without having to pay so much money? To those who can't afford college or choose not to come are you happy? Do you think that college is a way to gain happiness?
Well the answer to all those questions are no. Happiness isn't generally found in material things. There is always a deeper meaning to a persons happiness. Hence why happiness can be obtained in so many different ways.
" We are not happy individually. There are just moments in your life that make you happy or events that occur that make you happy."
The quote may sound strange but think deep about it. If you receive a material thing, it's not the item that makes you happy, but actually what the item can do for you that brings you happiness. Maybe just the fact that you received this item made you happy. In regards to relationships, it comes down to what you gain from the relationship because it is possible to be in an unhealthy or unhappy relationship. In college it's easy to explain. Someone is always doing all the work in order to get a piece of paper to show your ability to do something. At the end of the day all the time and work that was put in will bring you your happiness!!!!
The THRILL Of The Chase!!!!
The title is clearly self explanatory, but the meaning is not always understood. It's something males and females both do, but it may be for different reasons. A male may want see how far a female is willing to go with out having to be in a relationship. A female may want to see how close and open she can get a male with out a relationship. One thing is certain, no matter what the gender, the motive is personal gratification.
~A Female Perspective~
A girl likes all the attention they receive during "the chase". If a girl gets a great deal of attention too easily, and too fast, she will get bored. If she doesn't get enough attention then you risk losing HER attention. Once it's lost it's harder to get it back. You only get one first impression. I'm sure there are girls who like to do the chasing, but i can't think of any off the top. The most important thing is maintaining a balance. In my opinion, if you give a girl EVERYTHING she wants, you're setting yourself up to either get left or get played. There needs to be a medium of give and take. So in order to preserve the longevity of the "thrill", make sure your chase is more of a steady jog, rather than a sprint. ( Ms. Anonymous)
~A Male Perspective~
The thrill of the chase comes from the satisfaction we as guys feel when we 'conquer'. When a girl tells you, "you ain't gonna bag", you gonna do everything in your power to change her perception of you. We do the little things cause we wanna prove her wrong. And once we convince, its a small victory for our ego.
(Mr. Anonymous)
These are the perspectives offered by two actual people of the opposite gender, I didn't make the shit up. You notice that they both do it for two different reason. But that's not to say that is how ever Male/Female feels. We can easily just swap the to gender and the perspectives would still make sense.
~A Female Perspective~
A girl likes all the attention they receive during "the chase". If a girl gets a great deal of attention too easily, and too fast, she will get bored. If she doesn't get enough attention then you risk losing HER attention. Once it's lost it's harder to get it back. You only get one first impression. I'm sure there are girls who like to do the chasing, but i can't think of any off the top. The most important thing is maintaining a balance. In my opinion, if you give a girl EVERYTHING she wants, you're setting yourself up to either get left or get played. There needs to be a medium of give and take. So in order to preserve the longevity of the "thrill", make sure your chase is more of a steady jog, rather than a sprint. ( Ms. Anonymous)
~A Male Perspective~
The thrill of the chase comes from the satisfaction we as guys feel when we 'conquer'. When a girl tells you, "you ain't gonna bag", you gonna do everything in your power to change her perception of you. We do the little things cause we wanna prove her wrong. And once we convince, its a small victory for our ego.
(Mr. Anonymous)
These are the perspectives offered by two actual people of the opposite gender, I didn't make the shit up. You notice that they both do it for two different reason. But that's not to say that is how ever Male/Female feels. We can easily just swap the to gender and the perspectives would still make sense.
My Minds Telling Me No, But My Body Is Telling Me Yes!!
Day in and day out we may hear a female generalize and speak about how all guys are dog and that they all cheat and blah blah blah but let's be honest, those are the females that have dealt with the same type of guys. Facts prove that females cheat just as much as males do. It has nothing with who gets caught or
not, it just happens. When an individual cheats, there are things that come into play and its not always the male specifically.
Let's begin with unhappiness. If your partner isn't happy in the relationship then your mate is tempted to find their happiness but lets not forget that this is also where a lot of people go wrong and the give up 80 for 20 and end up with nothing.
Next I believe karma plays a role. If you have cheated before, you are bound to get cheated on, that's just that. There is also the issue if you did something trifling that wasn't that serious but as pay back your partner crosses that line.
Now what I think is the biggest reason why people cheat that effects males and females is a test of character. a person's ability to fight temptation. This is always around whether you realize it or not.
A Relationship is a Commitment. Cheating is an Option, Being Faithful is a responsibility!!!
not, it just happens. When an individual cheats, there are things that come into play and its not always the male specifically.
Let's begin with unhappiness. If your partner isn't happy in the relationship then your mate is tempted to find their happiness but lets not forget that this is also where a lot of people go wrong and the give up 80 for 20 and end up with nothing.
Next I believe karma plays a role. If you have cheated before, you are bound to get cheated on, that's just that. There is also the issue if you did something trifling that wasn't that serious but as pay back your partner crosses that line.
Now what I think is the biggest reason why people cheat that effects males and females is a test of character. a person's ability to fight temptation. This is always around whether you realize it or not.
A Relationship is a Commitment. Cheating is an Option, Being Faithful is a responsibility!!!
A Single Misconception...
I've come to realize that most of my blogs are about relationships. The funny
part is I'm not in one but that's not something I will blog about. The idea of
wanting to be single...what a thought. Everyone says the don't want to deal
with the drama and obligation of a relationship...SMH! You are all lazy
Americans at your best if that is your case. I've come to the realization that
no matter how single you want to be, that you never want to be lonely. You
either aren't willing to wear the title of someone's Man/Girl, or you just
aren't willing to work at something to keep it strong. At the other hand there
are those people who feel as though they can't function with out being in a
relationship.
I want to make something clear. A relationship and being a single are both by
choice.
But there is two sides to this. Like someone said the other day "Just because
I am single doesn't mean I a looking". Some people are single for reasons that
have nothing to do with the next individual. Some girls or some guys are
always presented with the question "Why are you single?" I personally get
offended by that question. No matter how good looking or nice you think the
person may be, what about them says the have to be in a relationship? My aunt
and mother have this idea that I can't just have a female friend. Some may
have the same problem. If they spent a day with me at URI then they would
think I was a hoe but back to the topic.
Why are people single? What are they lonely? Are they happy? Is something
wrong with them? I don't know...mind your own damn business thank you very
much!
part is I'm not in one but that's not something I will blog about. The idea of
wanting to be single...what a thought. Everyone says the don't want to deal
with the drama and obligation of a relationship...SMH! You are all lazy
Americans at your best if that is your case. I've come to the realization that
no matter how single you want to be, that you never want to be lonely. You
either aren't willing to wear the title of someone's Man/Girl, or you just
aren't willing to work at something to keep it strong. At the other hand there
are those people who feel as though they can't function with out being in a
relationship.
I want to make something clear. A relationship and being a single are both by
choice.
But there is two sides to this. Like someone said the other day "Just because
I am single doesn't mean I a looking". Some people are single for reasons that
have nothing to do with the next individual. Some girls or some guys are
always presented with the question "Why are you single?" I personally get
offended by that question. No matter how good looking or nice you think the
person may be, what about them says the have to be in a relationship? My aunt
and mother have this idea that I can't just have a female friend. Some may
have the same problem. If they spent a day with me at URI then they would
think I was a hoe but back to the topic.
Why are people single? What are they lonely? Are they happy? Is something
wrong with them? I don't know...mind your own damn business thank you very
much!
Shame to Shameless and Vise Versa!!!
Every second, minute, and hour, people make a connection. You look at each
other and then you hit it off. You may never know the next person's past but
yet you may still take the chance to make a solid connection with a stranger.
You come to realize that there will always be a point in your life where you
meet an individual and you either have an idea of who they were in the past or
something they did that blemished their character. Some things are more
drastic than others but some will still have a couple skeletons in the closet.
People don't realize this but I was once told by a friend that "you may meet a
male/female that will be worth it all." I'm not just talking about the people
who claim they don't do oral or anything sexually or even anything they don't
fully believe in. There is going to be a person that you would be willing to
do it all for, whether husband/wife or not. I'm speaking more about what isn't
done behind close doors that the public seed and what society will voice an
opinion on. There might be a girl who was a rat in high school and have a
change of life style in college or a man who was a player in high school but
isn't in college (and just so people don't get it twisted a player and a hoe
are the same thing). Some individuals may be faced with this situation some
day, and you may tell your self now that you will never take a man that was
known as a cheater or guys won't take a woman with "too many miles" (a female
that has had sex with a lot of guys) but in reality no one can tell the
future. If you finally meet some one, they can tell you anything they choose
to tell you and even worst not tell you what they don't want to; so months on
in you can find something out that is crazy some will stay and some won't.
Just remember there is a lot more to life then the thrill of a chase!!!!
other and then you hit it off. You may never know the next person's past but
yet you may still take the chance to make a solid connection with a stranger.
You come to realize that there will always be a point in your life where you
meet an individual and you either have an idea of who they were in the past or
something they did that blemished their character. Some things are more
drastic than others but some will still have a couple skeletons in the closet.
People don't realize this but I was once told by a friend that "you may meet a
male/female that will be worth it all." I'm not just talking about the people
who claim they don't do oral or anything sexually or even anything they don't
fully believe in. There is going to be a person that you would be willing to
do it all for, whether husband/wife or not. I'm speaking more about what isn't
done behind close doors that the public seed and what society will voice an
opinion on. There might be a girl who was a rat in high school and have a
change of life style in college or a man who was a player in high school but
isn't in college (and just so people don't get it twisted a player and a hoe
are the same thing). Some individuals may be faced with this situation some
day, and you may tell your self now that you will never take a man that was
known as a cheater or guys won't take a woman with "too many miles" (a female
that has had sex with a lot of guys) but in reality no one can tell the
future. If you finally meet some one, they can tell you anything they choose
to tell you and even worst not tell you what they don't want to; so months on
in you can find something out that is crazy some will stay and some won't.
Just remember there is a lot more to life then the thrill of a chase!!!!
I Think I'm In Love Love Love!!!!
Ideally every man or women in this world is looking for love. Some will search high and low, all for something that they are truly uncertain of what it may be. If you look back into your life you can probably remember telling someone that you love that you are uncertain of what it actually might mean but you still made the statement. When you ask people that are "in love" what it means to be "in love" you are bound to get a lot of different answers. However everyone has there own set of opinions on what it may mean but one thing is for certain; that love is happiness. No matter how u look at it, it is happiness. Whether its love in a material form, love in a friend, or love in a mate, you say the words "I love you" because it something or someone that brings you happiness. Now a days people tend to use the world extremely loosely. Others may believe that the word love isn't said or used enough but ideally, love is happiness and happiness is love!!!
The Truth Behind That Kinky Stuff!!!
Through out the years we have heard a lot of songs that are strongly based on sexual stimulation. In society sex sells there is no argument about that. But has some one ever sat and dissected what is being said or thought of the reality of what the musician is saying and Im not talking about calling head "Becky" because Plies says it, or anything that Too Short has ever said but more so in a classic that everyone knows as well as a more recently released track; Sexual Healing By Marvin Gaye and of course Medicine By Plies. Two completely different genres of music but still used to send a similar message. Everyone listens and says "oh he need/wants sex to feel better." How about we take a look at what doctors have to say about this. These may be all random facts, but who would ever think that something so pleasurable my be so healthy as well.
Sex Fact
-During 30 min of active sex a person burns approximately 200 calories
-A male that has sex at least once per week lowers the his chances for heart disease by 30% Diabetes 40% Stroke 50%
-Endorphins released during sexual activity creates a euphoria similar to that produced by opiate drug use. These same endorphins also act as an extremely effective pain killer.
- According to the museum of sex, the vibrator was originally used as a medical treatment for female "Hysteria"..
-Kissing is good, the extra saliva this is exchange helps teeth from decaying. With 60 seconds of kissing you lose 26 calories
-Sperm has a tightening effect on the skin, when left to dry it leave behind protein which help reduce wrinkles
-When women make love the produce amount of the hormone estrogen which makes there hair shine and skin smooth
-Men making Love reduces the chances of suffering from dermatitis (skin rashes & Blemishes)
-Sex is an instant cure for mild depression
So when you hear the phrases, "sexual healing" or "let me be your medicine" don't just think of the hooks to a track but that enough actual bumping and grinding can do the body good.. So freaks be freaks, it can lead to a healthier life....
Sexual Healing-Marvin Gaye
Plies-Medicine
What You Say Mean More Than What You Mean....
They say that when you speak and use a lot of profanity, (swear words for those who don't know), you are labeled as some one who is either ignorant or with a poor vocabulary. However, that isn't always the case. You can be honest by only expressing yourself. That is the power of words, but like everything in life for something positive there is always a negative.
There are people that use words in place of other words, (slang for some who didn't catch the hint), but what some might think is slang and cool to say may not know that there is deeper meaning in the word that they are saying. Day in and day out I know we all hear the word "Nigga" used to describe a fellow friend which comes from the word "Nigger", which is also an ethnic slur derived from the word "Negro". (Negro: A member of a Negroid Race), which is basically a race or Brown or Black pigments.
I'm not the type of guy to ever leisurely pick up and read a book which some can tell by my writing, but I actually read this book and will actually recommend it to all minorities...
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